Ok so all my “Natural” Heads are familiar with the wonderous DENMAN, but for those of you who are not well….
Denman Classic Styling Brushes feature a close-set pin pattern and anti-static rubber cushion that allows for maximum grip and control for smoothing and shaping. The pure rubber base provides the right amount of tension in combination with the heat from the hair dryer. Smooth, round-ended pins penetrate the hair safely for gentle styling without damage.
It has been dubbed the Natural Girls MUST HAVE….so I had to have it! I did extensive research of course on why I needed it and what to do with it when I got it. Most use it for detangling and smoothing, so I tried both.
Detangling…..2 thumbs down! Even with product in my hair and sectioning and all the things you should do when detangling I would not use this brush for that. I had to first use my curly hair wide tooth comb that I got from a Natural Hair meet up in Atlanta and I love it…but I digress….After I used the comb the Denman worked fine to just go through my hair.
Smoothing….1 up 1 down! I mean when I think smooth I think SMOOTH and although it brought my hair together and layed it flat to my head it wasn’t just smooth. I had to use a real brush to get it like I want it.
Now don’t get me wrong the Denman is very good for curl clumping and definition. I mean for those things it’s the bomb.
Ok so I’ll give THE DENMAN 3 out of 5 stars. I mean you don’t have to have it but it won’t hurt if you do!
Add a comment February 10, 2011
Tags: blow drying, brush, coils, curl, curly hair, denman, detangling, hair, hair damage, hair type, natural girl, natural hair, shaping, smooth, smoothing, straight
I’m just a girl.
Just a girl with coils and curls.
Skin like caramel, teeth like pearls.
Just a girl with almond shaped eyes,
Full lips that are naturally lined.
Just a girl created by Love
Soul made of breath, breath of the Morning Sun (Son)
Just a girl….
Add a comment January 23, 2011
Tags: black girl, caramel, girl, hair, lips, natural, nisha speaks, self esteem, self image, self worth, son, soul, sun
I’m selfish, i’m not letting you go. I know it’s not how I want it but I just can’t shake how you make me feel. Took it slow in the begining and now at the end it hurts like i’m dying slow.
See I don’t think you understand or really know how I am. When i’m in, I’m all in. What you need i’m gone send. My positive vibes makes everything alright. You wonder why you feel that way when I’m around. Why you would rather talk with me and not just lay me down.
Conversation for hours from the hood to the strength of God’s power. And I dig that to, that we can talk about everything. And I appreciate you, how you put me on alot of things. I drive different because of you. Wanna get there fast, ride the exits baby, be aggressive when you pass. My t.v. game changed some too, Hughey and Riley vs. Hannity and Beck…Somewhere in there is the truth.
I’m not saying its all good cuz that would be a lie, but don’t you dare deny how I make you feel when we’re together at night. Maybe what you say are lies, you might not miss me like you say. But giving up your time and you don’t care for me….ain’t no way.
I’m invested in this thing, emotions attached, like thread to a seam. Our lives intertwined and damn its like you got my mind…..
And i’m selfish. I’m not letting it go. I’m selfish, you’re part of my routine, I try to shake it, but all of me says no.
I’m selfish….
Add a comment August 27, 2010
Tags: begining, dying, hurt, letting go, lies, like, love, positive vibes, relationships, selfish, time, truth
Our conversation takes me to a place that consumes every part of me, ignites a fire that makes you
want to kiss the flame. Hurts so good till it starts to rain. A place when I speak of it makes me blush, when I hear your voice it calms me but at the same time I get a rush. I feign for you like a junkie, you’ve become my high I wait with anticipation for it every night…..
I need you.
2 comments August 10, 2010
Tags: conversation, flame, high, hurt, I miss you, I need you, junkie, kiss, love, voice, you
I am a writer, gifted to affect the lives of people through words….
I take great pride in this ability. I feel that it is my charge to write and speak the thoughts and words most leave in their minds. Every emotion and fleeting thought has value and has the ability to affect our person. I am not afraid of what I think…..it makes me who I am. A question I ask myself often is…..Is it worse that I say it or that they think it, but are afraid to say it???
I Am nishaSPEAKS.
Add a comment July 5, 2010
Tags: blogger, dreams, Inspiration, nisha speaks, people, thoughts, writer
My daddy is so handsome. 6 foot 5, chocolate skin, with brown eyes.
My daddy is a music man, Jazz is his genre of choice.
Played it in the car, in the house so much till it infected my soul…So that’s what I wanted for me, All the things my momma said my daddy used to be.
See I keep running into my daddy.
My daddy had plenty women, that’s probably why him and my mom got a divorce, but let him tell it…..”Yo momma is the only lady for me” as we walk out of his new wife’s front door.
See I keep running into my daddy.
I believe my daddy has the best intentions. Like when he says he ain’t got it right now, it don’t bother me. Or when I be calling to check on him, but he don’t ever call to check on me…..
See I keep running into my daddy.
I love my daddy, go to the end of the earth for my daddy, appreciate the contribution to my birth daddy. With blinded eyes I ate up all the lies from my daddy.
See I keep running into my daddy.
I met him in college band, see that what I said I wanted….a music man. Let’s call him Chocolate Ty. I was wide open, I was addicted to his Chocolate High. He was a ladies man, had plenty women, but let hime tell it….”Baby you the only one for me” as he watched the dancers booty pop on count 3.
See I keep running into my daddy.
Then there’s Sean. Tall brother with skin like bronze. Game so tight, he could switch it up and fade away like Lebron. He told me all the things I wanted to here, but when I really needed him he was never there. But somehow when the crisis was over he was always around, saying….”You so strong baby girl, if you would have called me you know I would have been down. I loved Sean. He could do no wrong. With bliinded eyes, I ate up his lies, gave him my love and then he was gone.
See I keep running into my daddy.
I keep running into my daddy, I Keep Running Into My Daddy, I KEEP RUNNING INTO MY DADDY! I love my daddy, but right now I don’t like my daddy. Thought my habits would change with time, prayed I could shake this image that’s been burned into my mind,
So that when I run into my daddy, I can run away from my daddy…………….
Add a comment June 30, 2010
Tags: boyfriend, college, daddy, dancer, hurt, jazz, love, relationships, sex, soul

The Game of Sweet Revenge
So you want to play hard huh? You wanna try your luck and hope for the best eh??? Ok…..GO!
It was a simple discussion that got a little heated. You flushed it out. Tensions still high, but you keep it moving saying its resolved, knowing its not…at least on your end. So after one little statement they’re feeling “froggy” LOL! They’re not picking up their phone, but their phone accidently calls you HA! Bet they hate they have a touch screen now, LMAO! You text, no response. Next day…you text, no response, you call, they don’t pick up…..Hmmmm really now.
A week has passed and you have not heard their voice. You tried to straighten this out days ago but they wanted to try their luck. So now its YOUR turn. They text you, no response. Theycall you, you don’t pick up.
They wanted to play…
You’re 30+. You don’t play….you’re done.
1 comment March 7, 2010
Tags: faithful, games, love, man, men, message, nisha speaks, phone, relationships, sorry, text message, voicemail, want, women

nishaSPEAKS, uLISTEN.
Now this is not the first time I’ve touched on this topic, but I think it deserves to be revisited. I should state that this is MY opinion (as this is MY brand new blog, lol) although a number of you will agree. Let me first describe Mr. Regular Joe Blow……He is between the ages of 26 & 34, he is attractive, he can be employed, underemployed or a student, he is smart, but he may not be degreed down, he could have his own spot or he may live with a relative. What I’m saying is he’s charming, he has personality, he has potential, but he’s flying under your radar so none of these attributes get noticed. He’s just not that dude that you look at first for whatever reason, but he’s a good dude.
Now on my FB page (www.facebook.com/tonishap) we have had an in depth discussion on why females never go for Regular Joe Blow, recieved comments from men and women. Some men say that “women would rather have a man dog them than love them”, women said “yeah Regular Joe Blow treats me great but can he put it down in the bedroom???” Women feel that regular Joe Blow can’t “multi-task” if you will. “He can’t be the loving sweet man I need AND be the “bad boy” I want in the bedroom.” While Regular Joe Blow says, “hey, I CAN PUT IT DOWN, if you ever gave me a chance!”
As a single woman with single women friends I hear the same relationship convo rehashed over and over…….”I’m dating So and So………..I’m not dating So and So anymore, he played me, he dogged me, he was MARRIED!!!” So are we picking the wrong guys? Are we a glutten for punishment because we’re looking over Regular Joe Blow? Is Regular Joe Blow going to do me “right” if I just gave him a chance??? So I did it. I gave Regular Joe Blow a shot!
He fit the Regular Joe Blow description to a tee. He took me out, he called all the time, he texted for no reason, we had inside jokes on social networks for the world to see…….could this be??? WOW, I mean I thought, this feels really good! So I started to show Regular Joe Blow some attention, things were still going great. I mean I was really gonna give him a chance cuz he was bringing it. Then Regular Joe Blow starts feeling himself. Starts doing all the stuff So and So did. I say ok cool let me pull back cuz dude I’m not really feeling you like that YET. So just like with So and So, you pull back here they come with the attention again. But nah I ain’t dying, I see how you roll Regular Joe Blow. We still talk from time to time but seriously it’s NOTHING!
So silly me what do I do??? I try it again…..brand new Regular Joe Blow! It’s going well and I am starting to really like him. Will he do me like So and So? Or is he gonna be the best thing because he is Regular Joe Blow? I don’t know, that’s a chance I just have to take. But what I have come to find out is…..It can be Regular Joe Blow or So and So, they’re MEN and men have a wiring that makes them really crappy sometimes. So I keep pushing. Enjoying whomever I choose to let into my life and share my conversation, my time, maybe even my affection.
Regular Joe Blow??? SMH
3 comments March 5, 2010
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